The One Skill Review Part 3

     Hello, welcome back to my blog. This time I will resume my review of The One Skill book. Happy reading guys.....

Chapter 11: Developing the Letting Go Skills

      Based on the previous review, we can see some of the benefits we can get from letting go skills. To develop these skills, we must solve and practice smaller skills first and then unite them in greater skills. The skill pieces are:

1. Noticing Signals

2. Seeing the Ideal

3. Seeing the Harm

4. Letting Go with Love

5. Seeing Reality
      All of these skills are the part of letting go skills. Each of these skills will be explained in the next chapter.

Chapter 12: The 1st Skill (Noticing Signals)

    The first skill is noticing signals. These signals can be anger, frustration, anxiety, feeling hurt, jealousy, procrastination, wanting to get justice, and so on.

     It is not wrong if we feel these signals, but we just have to accept them and don't allow ourselves to do things that we will regret later and better if we start the letting go process.

     To practice it, we must make a commitment to to notice when these signals appear, do this until we are proficient at doing so.

Chapter 13: The 2nd Skill (Seeing the Ideal)

   After noticing signals, the next skill is to look inside and see the thickening of the signals appearing.

     As we know, everyone must have aspirations and hopes, these ideals and hopes are fantasies about the reality of what should happen. If they match with reality, we will not be angry, and vice versa.

     Signals can arise because of the ideal that we have. Examples of these ideals are:

1. People must be fair.

2. People must respect and not insult us.

3. Our lives will be full of joy and pleasure without pain, etc.

Chapter 14: The 3rd Skill (Seeing the Harm)

      After noticing the signals and seeing the ideal that causes the signals, it is time for us to practice the next skill "Seeing the Harm".

     When we notice the signals and ideals that cause them, we must ask ourselves whether or not those ideals endanger others. If these ideals can harm yourself and others, we better let them go, whereas if those ideals cause us to do good things, then we don't need to let them go.

Chapter 15: The 4th Skill (Letting Go With Love)

    Letting go of harmful ideals can be a compassionate act, here is how to let go with love and compassion:

1. Hope that we and other people around us are happy.

2. See that these ideals cause suffering.

3. End suffering by giving up idealism and focus on the good things we will have if we letting go of        the ideal.

4. Let our hearts and minds relax.

5. Make ourselves new people with a reduced ideal one.

Chapter 16: The 5th Skill (Seeing Reality)

     After we successfully let go, then we have to turn our attention to reality and see what we are. Instead of measuring ourselves against idealism about what we should do, it is better to see ourselves for who we are.

     In life, sometimes life is not what we aspire to be, but it is no a problem as long as we can accept differences that exist as they are.